First, your goals are our goals. We will work with you, no matter what your goals are and what your parenting style is. Second, we believe that cuddling, feeding, rocking, walking, etc. is great for your relationship and meeting your child's needs. Third, some children need contact or motion to be able to fall asleep. We'll help you put your child in their bed awake and show them how to fall asleep on their own using tear-free methods. If you don't want to do this, you don't have to! We believe it empowers children to learn to put themselves to sleep at naps and bed-time to self-settle when they feel well. But there will be times when your child will need or even insist that you hold them when they are tired, day and night. This is normal for sensitive children during teething, growth, development and illness. Fourth, you can always do a little extra cuddling when you feel like it, without going backwards.